Forgive and Forget

You know the saying "Forgive and Forget" Forgiveness is defined as: to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.); absolve, to cease to feel resentment against. Forget is defined as: be unable to recall. So Jesus tells us to forgive. I think the kicker in forgiveness is "to cease to feel resentment against. In my way of thinking the best way to do this is to forget, or be unable to recall. For me honestly the best way to forgive, is to also forget. They go hand in hand. My only question in this is the land of second chances. We are asked by God to walk in love, and love one another, and to forgive. Does this mean we have to be friends with everyone, I have forgiven them, however maybe the friendship is over? There are some people that have wronged me, and I have forgiven in the past, however because of that wrong I might not desire to be as close with them as I was before. When I think about it that way, this has to mean that I have not forgotten the wrong. And I do think that is true, after about 10 or 20 times of being wronged, and me forgiving, it's like a cycle, it's exhausting, and I keep getting hurt. Then I think how many times have I "wronged" God, or sinned? What if he gave up on that relationship. He doesn't, and he never will. I do believe I have forgiven the person, however I might be less likely to trust the person again. It seems so logical, but so much a "flesh" thing. With God you ask for forgiveness, and it's done, never to be brought up again. I can't tell you how many times I have asked for forgiveness more than once for the same thing and God replies "What are you talking about, it's forgiven, I don't remember it." Christian means "Christ like" I am to be like Christ in everything I do. So maybe the next time my reply to myself needs to be "What are you talking about, it's done, forget about the wrong that person did and start fresh." It's hard, one situation in particular in my life, it is a hard thing to forgive, epically when the person never asked to be forgiven. But I have forgiven, though it seems impossible for me to forget, but I am working on it. It becomes so hard to make your flesh shut up at times, but when your spirit shines and does as God desires, amazing things take place. So I have faith that amazing things are going to take place.